Zeng Guofan： Don't fool around all your life, first of all, do these four things right.

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　　A smile will gain you ten more years of life. ...

　　There is a classic saying in How Steel was Tempered:

　　"The most precious thing for a person is life. Life belongs to a person only once. A person's life should be spent in this way: when he looks back on the past, he should not regret wasting his time, nor should he be ashamed of doing nothing."

　　Life can be busy, but we can't be busy. We must spend our precious time and energy on important things.

　　Run a good family

　　As the saying goes, "Home is the harbor of the soul".

　　A broken ship will return to Hong Kong, a tired person will return to his hometown, and the family can tolerate everything. A comfortable and happy home is the source of happiness.

　　However, many people nowadays devote their time and energy to their careers and ignore the existence of their families.

　　We built a family by half a life's hard work and struggle, but we seem to have deviated from the initial intention of starting a family.

　　Because of the need of career, it is not worth the loss to leave the family idle.

　　A family is made up of many people, and it is difficult to call it a family. Often, the more family members, the more active and vital the family is.

　　People spend most of their lives in their families, and a warm and harmonious family can stimulate people's potential and make them feel gained and happy.

　　A good family is run, and a person who is good at running a family must be a wise and intelligent person.

　　Family is a place of dedication, and our love for our loved ones is selfless and unrequited, not just asking for it.

　　Everyone loves others actively, and everyone accepts to be loved, so everyone gets love from others.

　　While enjoying the love of family members, each member of the family should shoulder his own responsibilities.

　　Zeng Guofan is a man who loves his family very much. Although he is an official in the capital, he always cares about his family in Hunan. He writes to his hometown every few days, and often cares about his family's physical condition and tells them to pay attention to the method of keeping in good health.

　　Zeng Guofan's letters to his family have been bound into a book by later generations, named "Zeng Guofan's Letters", which has been widely circulated so far.

　　Make the right friends

　　When you are away from home, you can't live without friends. With more friends, it's easy to go, but it's hard to know and argue.

　　The Book of the Later Han Dynasty said: "Living with kindness is like entering the room of Zhilan, but not smelling its fragrance for a long time, and living with incompetence is like entering the place of abalone, but not smelling its stink for a long time."

　　When we make friends, we must look at the right people. Making the right friends will give us a good experience.

　　People learn from each other, and friends are kind-hearted and good-natured, so you will do the same in the future. If a friend has a bad heart and a bad character, then he will also affect you. Who you make friends with will determine your life.

　　As the folk saying goes, "Learn from good people and steal from robbers." Friends will affect your life, so you must choose the right friends.

　　In fact, a true friend is a friend who can share weal and woe with you and dare to criticize you.

　　Friends are like two trees that lean together, supporting each other in the storm and growing up with each other. To make friends, you have to make friends that are worth making, and such friends can bring you positive energy.

　　A true friend can read each other's hearts, know what they need, and give them help on their own initiative, instead of just asking for something from each other.

　　Zeng Guofan is insightful about the way to make friends. He summed up the benefits of "eight friends and nine friends", what friends can make and what friends can't make, and making good friends for a lifetime.

　　Zeng Guofan often wrote to his younger brother Ceng Guoquan. In his letter, he wrote: "The success or failure of a lifetime is related to the merits of friends. You must not be careless."

　　It can be seen that Zeng Guofan attached great importance to making friends and was determined to be in line with the ancient sages.

　　Find the right position

　　Socrates famously said, "Know yourself".

　　In fact, we can easily know others, but it is often difficult to know ourselves clearly. Some people don't know what they want all their lives.

　　In fact, the most difficult thing for people is to know themselves. Everyone wants to live a wonderful life, just like a rainbow in the sky.

　　Only by finding the right position for yourself can you live a meaningful life.

　　Sometimes, we obviously work hard, but we can't achieve the desired results. Then, we need to calm down and think about whether there is something wrong with the direction of your efforts.

　　People must not be bound. What others think and think is someone else's business. As for you, it all depends on how you measure yourself.

　　We should find our own position, have self-knowledge and understand what we are suitable for.

　　We shouldn't be jealous of how other people's lives are, because that's where others are, and what you have must be the best for you. What suits you is the best, and you don't have to blindly follow others.

　　Life is like making a movie. Everyone has his own role, and there are boundaries between each role.

　　Don't bring the role of work into the family, and don't bring the role of family into the work. Being a man can avoid a lot of unnecessary troubles by finding his own position.

　　"Zeng Guofan's Letter" said: "There is no other way to seek the essence of the industry, but to be expert."

　　From Assistant Minister Ding Bu to the Governor of Liangjiang River and then to the Commander-in-Chief of Xiang Army, Zeng Guofan found the right position and successfully opened up a world.

　　At all times, we should have the "Zhi Zhi's Wisdom" and make clear our position.

　　Take good care of your body

　　As the old saying goes, "A man is light without illness".

　　The most important thing for a person is good health. Having a healthy body is the greatest wealth for a person in this life.

　　Only when you are in good health can you live a good life.

　　If you are in good health, everything can be started again. If your body collapses, everything will collapse, and no amount of money can be exchanged for health.

　　When people reach middle age, their bodies begin to decline. Taking good care of their bodies is the best investment for themselves.

　　Pay attention to the reasonable combination of meat and vegetables in diet and do more exercise in the morning and evening, which are all good ways to keep healthy.

　　In addition to good health, we should also have a good mentality psychologically.

　　As the saying goes: "smile, ten years old;" A sorrow, a white head. "

　　Keep a young and optimistic attitude, have a cheerful smile, always be childlike in new things, and be happy and happy every day. This is the way to live a long life.

　　Zeng Guofan lived for 62 years. In the face of today's advanced medical technology, his longevity is not considered, but more than 100 years ago, it greatly exceeded the average life expectancy at that time.

　　Zeng Guofan has been in Beijing for more than ten years. He has been in poor health and often gets sick.

　　On one occasion, in a letter to a friend, he said, "Since joining the army, he has been ill at home, often afraid of death, contrary to his original ambition."

　　Therefore, Zeng Guofan often pays attention to health preservation. He said that "the word" broad "is the medicine for treating the heart, and the word" no medicine "is the medicine for treating the body.

　　Zeng Guofan put forward "six things of keeping in good health" and thought that "keeping in good health is based on less anger". Physical and psychological health are equally important. Only a firm will and strong body can revitalize the family.

　　Life is graceful, and some people begin to pay attention to health care when they find that they are in poor health, but it has little effect; And some people from the beginning, they cherish the body, the body has been very good.

　　We should not do things that we regret too late. There are priorities in the world, and we should at least distinguish between them.

　　Please simplify your life, reduce unnecessary fuss, and focus your time and energy on things worth doing.