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  The Road of Courage: Leading the Organization Effectively and Living a Real Life

  By Shelley Francis

  Editor | Sanfeng

  The 7602nd in-depth article: 4365 words | 11 minutes reading.

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  The film "Disappeared She" has been particularly popular recently. In fact, it has a prototype story, that is, a pregnant woman from China who once caused a sensation at home and abroad fell off a cliff in Thailand.

  On June 9, 2019, Wang Nuan, a China woman who was pregnant for three months, fell from a 34-meter-high cliff while playing in Ubon Paden National Park in Thailand. She was found one hour later. Fortunately, she miraculously survived after being sent to the hospital for rescue.

  After getting out of danger, she got up the courage and bravely told the truth to the media: it turned out that her husband had pushed her off the cliff.

  Until June 2, 2023, the third trial of "China pregnant woman falling off a cliff in Thailand" pronounced that Yu Xiaodong, who deliberately killed his wife and cheated insurance in Thailand, was sentenced to 33 years and 4 months in prison. After four years and three complaints, the victim Wang Wennuan finally settled everything.

  The old saying in China says, "Talent, learning, courage and knowledge are the first." The bravery mentioned here refers to courage.

  Western thinkers have also said that courage is the basis of other virtues. Courage is the premise and foundation of many virtues, and it is also the most positive energy that can be transmitted between people.

  So, how can we gain courage? Shelly Francis of the Center for Courage and Freshness in the United States gave us the answer in the book The Road to Courage.

  The Center for Courage and Freshness, a non-profit organization founded by Parker Palmer in 1997, aims to cultivate personal and professional integrity and the courage to practice these integrity. Currently, it has a global network of nearly 300 instructors.

  Since 2012, the author Shelly Francis has been the director of the marketing and communication department of Courage and Freshness Center. Previously, she was the director of the marketing and publicity department of Yayin Company, a multimedia publisher, and she had rich professional experience.

  One or four types of courage

  People need different courage in different situations. Many times, we only understand courage as physical or moral courage. In fact, there is more than one type of courage, which can be divided into four types: 1. Physical courage, 2. Moral courage, 3. Social courage, and 4. Creative courage.

  1. Physical courage, this is a kind of courage that allows us to stand up bravely and fight with our bodies.

  For example: just fight, stand up in times of crisis, fight against illness for a long time, and challenge your body to do things that you can't usually do.

  Just like Wang Nuan, who escaped from a cliff, she is an admirable woman. After the accident, she suffered 17 fractures and hit more than 100 steel nails. After leaving the hospital, she has been insisting on rehabilitation and rehabilitation treatment. Although the process is long and painful, she has always maintained an optimistic attitude.

  In some days, when we open our eyes and wake up, it takes courage to face the cruel facts, and then make a choice and bear the adverse consequences of our choice, which also takes courage.

  Having the courage to "live" is not a heroic feat, but in any case, real life needs some courage.

  2. Moral courage, which is manifested in reporting wrong words and deeds, still daring to tell the truth in the face of power, and daring to bear the consequences.

  Just like Malala, a Pakistani girl, at the age of 12, she risked her identity to write an anonymous blog post for the BBC to attack the Taliban. Later, when Malala was 15 years old, a masked Taliban gunman attacked her school bus and shot and injured Malala and other students. Malala was lucky to survive.

  At the age of 16, Malala said in a speech at the UN General Assembly: "Terrorists tried to kill people, but they couldn't stop them from talking ... What happened to me not only faded my fragility, fear and helplessness, but also added strength, strength and courage to me. As always, I am still Malala."

  This fully shows that ordinary people can also show their moral courage. It is because they know what is right and wrong in their hearts that they are brave enough to make the right choice, isn't it?

  3. Social courage, which means that when people take the risk of revealing their inner feelings and communicate with others with their true selves, they show social courage.

  When we lack the courage to socialize, people form a false connection and cannot form a relationship of mutual trust.

  Everyone is familiar with this scene: when family members are together, they look at computers and mobile phones instead of heart-to-heart; Friends gathering, not catching up, but desperately brushing WeChat; In the meeting, others are reporting, but the audience is sending and receiving information. These phenomena seem that we are together, but in fact we live in our own "bubbles".

  My good friend Xiaolei told me that in the two years when she refused to socialize, she didn't make new friends, as if she had lived a very special life, but she really lost herself. Later, she found that sincere communication between people is the best medicine to cure unhappiness.

  Therefore, we still have to try our best to open our hearts and embrace, to touch and perceive this world where people love and hate each other. Only in this way can we get fun, human feelings and love.

  In fact, social courage can make people stand in front of others physically and mentally, and also create a sense of security for others to dare to stand out. At this time, people will also have real input and creation in their work.

  4. Creativity is the least known type of courage, but it needs to be cultivated most.

  Why do you say that? Because it sometimes means initiating changes in the original institutions and organizations, so that organizations can return to the original heart and make greater contributions; Sometimes it means leaving a place where your dreams can no longer be accommodated, starting your own business or promoting change in other ways; The courage to create also means to create another Xinsheng Duan when you find that your life is not what you want.

  Mozi, a famous scholar in the Warring States period, must be familiar to everyone, but he was a student of Confucius and studied Confucianism, but he was not willing to just follow Confucius. He had his own opinions. Later, he left Confucius and became a school of Mohism in hundred schools of thought.

  Therefore, we should be brave in creating life. Only at that moment will we understand that we are not here to adapt to the society, but to change it.

  To put it bluntly, creating a life means making your own voice, telling others that you are ready and letting others hear your voice; It means describing the dream that makes the world different, living it, and inspiring others to act at the same time; It also means using new ideas and new models to lead the way forward, integrating inside and outside, and making changes continue to advance.

  Maya Angelu, an American poet, said, "People are not necessarily born brave, but they are born with the potential for development. Without courage, people can't continuously develop other virtues, such as kindness, truthfulness, compassion, generosity and honesty. "

  If courage is necessary for a leader, how can you become a leader in this respect? What kind of inner qualities should a guide have in order to have not only physical courage, but also moral courage, social courage and creative courage?

  In fact, when you decide to take action, it also inspires people and reflects integrity. At this time, it is showing courage.

  Courage is the moment when you make a decision and take action, which makes you full of vitality; Courage is what your soul looks like when it is revealed; Courage is not only what you have, but also what you have.

  At the moment of showing courage, you will see your true self.

  Second, the trust circle criterion

  Parker Palmer said: "If we are willing to accept the challenge and strive to be a person with complete body and mind, this process cannot be completed alone, at least one person can't go far."

  If we want to go all the way, we need to be in the trust relationship between people. If we want to continue to live a life that is no longer divided, we need a tough and strong community.

  Support to let us go #x27; The inner journey of the heart from one place requires us to build a real community, which is rare now. I call it the circle of trust. "

  The circle of trust method can not only help people get back their passion for work. It can also help people to establish relational trust. Of course, a series of rules need to be followed when conducting circle guidance, which we call the trust circle criterion.

  In the book, the circle principle is divided into three groups, namely, starting point principle, interaction principle and integration principle, according to the different stages of building trust and courage by individuals "in their own place" and "in others' place".

  1. Starting point criteria

  The starting point criterion is the first three in the circle criterion, including "welcome to see", "be present in the present as far as possible" and "invite but not insist".

  As the name implies, these three articles talk about how to open your mind and welcome others when you start to enter the interaction between people; How to get rid of interference and devote yourself to the present; How to invite others instead of forcing them.

  In daily life, we often face various problems and challenges, and how to look at these problems from different angles will have a far-reaching impact on our thinking and solutions.

  When we look at problems from different angles and keep learning and exploring, we will bravely step out of the comfort zone, challenge the boundaries of thinking, and meet the interaction with others with expanded cognitive horizons.

  Moreover, every rule requires us to grasp the awareness of ourselves and our starting point. If these three criteria are fulfilled, relational trust will begin to appear.

  It's just like you need to tune the piano by playing the key C, and you need to group the choir members into one voice according to a certain pitch. These starting criteria also set the tone of your personal leadership and your organizational culture.

  2. Interaction criteria

  The principles of interaction include "expressing one's own factual views while respecting others' factual views", "not correcting each other, not rescuing, not suggesting or correcting", "thinking again when things are difficult", keeping "open and sincere questions" and "following the inner teacher" until "trusting and learning the power of silence".

  These are the guidelines for how to talk between people and people in a larger group. These guidelines are also applicable to people's daily conversations, and can also be used as principles for how to treat others in work and life.

  As we know, there are 1000 Hamlets in the hearts of 1000 readers, and different people can look at the same thing from different perspectives. Therefore, these principles are applicable to friends, personal relationships, counseling relationships and other situations where it is particularly necessary to express their true thoughts.

  Imagine that whenever we discuss topics such as strategic direction, priorities, ways and means, money, leadership and power, team members will definitely see different aspects of the problem in the same fact. Therefore, everyone should express their own perspectives and opinions and have the responsibility to tell others their own ideas.

  If you want to really understand others, this kind of story sharing that spans different people is very important.

  We don't have to argue about who is right or wrong, so we won't blame others and shame them.

  Of course, in the workplace, especially when solving problems, it is normal and necessary to expound and debate what others have published.

  3. Integration criteria

  The unified principle includes "observing the principle of confidentiality" and "it is possible to sow the seeds first and then wait for the flowers to bloom".

  These two principles still need to be adhered to after the one-day circle dialogue. The principle is the embodiment of protecting the space of trust and the embodiment of continuing unity and insight after the dialogue.

  After graduating from college, Xiao Tan, a good friend, joined Eastcom. Apart from his newness and ignorance when he first entered the workplace, he, like every young man, is full of enthusiasm and ready to show his talents in the workplace. At this time, a seed has been quietly planted in Xiao Tan's heart.

  The first time I went to the scene to change the plane, Xiao Tan failed. Although the problem was solved with the help of my colleagues, this incident made Xiao Tan see the gap between himself and his colleagues.

  Since the experience is insufficient, then accumulate experience; Since we are not working hard enough, we should redouble our efforts.

  Xiao Tan made detailed goals and plans for his study and work, holding every minute in his palm. Self-discipline allows budding seeds to stretch vines and flowers to gradually become.

  In the past three years, Xiao Tan has gone from ignorance to half knowledge, from half knowledge to insight, and finally gained high recognition from customers. At this moment, the flower has completely bloomed and swayed.

  Therefore, success is a matter of course, and it is urgent. You should have the serenity and calmness of sitting in front of the court and watching the flowers bloom and fall, and faithful wife's faith and courage.

  Third, write at the end

  In short, a good leader can protect the space for dialogue for everyone, especially when everyone faces difficult problems and has different views. The leader should be able to invite everyone to fully present their abilities, thoughts and energy.

  As an individual, when clarity and wisdom are brought out through the dialogue between people, the truth that everyone agrees on will rise from this circle of people, so the trust created in it will push out courage, and people will find integrity and courage in their actions.

  If we combine the four courage types of "where the heart goes" with the 11 circle criteria of "where the heart goes", we can build a space together, which will allow courage to develop and creativity to emerge.

  On the road of courage, we will temper the truth, seek the true meaning and explore the integrity. This is a road as long as life, which requires both doing our own homework and working with our partners.

  There are still many wonderful contents in the book, for everyone to keep this book at hand and read it from time to time, as if to appreciate the wonderful movement that brings vitality to people again and again.

  Finally, may the words in this book enlighten you to find your own way with your own courage!

  * The article is the author's independent opinion and does not represent the position of Note Man.

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