It is very important that parents with foresight will give these four kinds of ＂reminders＂ in time before their children find a partner!

　　Author: Daily Jun

　　As parents, they often worry about their children's marital problems.

　　Worried about whether they can find a suitable partner, it is extremely difficult to choose a suitable partner in this busy society.

　　Therefore, as experienced people, we should give our children some reminders to help them open the door to marriage.

　　01

　　Pay attention to each other's family background

　　As we all know, family environment and upbringing have a far-reaching impact on a person's development.

　　If the other half comes from a broken family, it is likely to have psychological problems, bad habits or some bad behaviors.

　　If our children choose such partners, they will face many challenges.

　　Therefore, parents should encourage their children to have more contact with each other's families, observe the degree of family harmony and understand the personality characteristics and values of each other's family members.

　　Like one of my high school classmates,

　　She talked about a boyfriend in college and planned to get married after graduation, but when she started to get in touch with his family, she found that there were all kinds of serious conflicts and disharmonies in his family.

　　Finally, I listened to my parents' advice and gave up this relationship decisively.

　　02

　　Matching degree of personality

　　There are various types of personality, some are active and cheerful, and some are introverted and shy.

　　There is a saying that character determines fate.

　　In marriage, personality differences often lead to disharmony and affect the fate of marriage.

　　For example, a sociable person may not understand the lifestyle of an otaku; A person who pursues stability may not be able to stand an adventurous partner.

　　Therefore, we should encourage our children to get along with each other when choosing a partner, and observe and understand each other's personality characteristics.

　　My next-door neighbor.

　　The husband and wife have complementary personalities, one is outgoing and kind, the other is introverted and brave, as if nothing can stop them.

　　After many years, their marriage is still happy.

　　03

　　Common values

　　One of the cornerstones of marriage is common values.

　　If two people disagree on many important issues, such as life concept, money concept, family concept, etc., then they may have frequent conflicts in marriage.

　　Therefore, parents should teach their children to pay attention to each other's values and see if they are in line with themselves.

　　Some people think that career takes precedence over family, while others think that family should be the most important thing.

　　If two people disagree, there will be many frictions and differences in daily life.

　　Give a real example.

　　One of my colleagues, when she was in love, found that her boyfriend was extremely pursuing material and enjoyment, while she paid more attention to inner satisfaction and intimate relationship.

　　Although they like each other, they gave up this relationship because she knew that their values were not consistent at all.

　　04

　　Give children room to grow up.

　　Marriage is not only the union of two people, but also the common growth of two people.

　　In marriage, people will face many challenges and difficulties, which need them to deal with together.

　　Therefore, parents should remind their children to choose a partner who is willing to grow up with them.

　　If a person is passionate about his future and hopes to succeed in his career, but the other person only cares about the immediate small profits, then their marriage may be in trouble.

　　At that time, my sister and her husband were very young when they got married, and they didn't have much economic foundation.

　　However, they all have great dreams and determination, and they have made great progress in their careers and families through joint efforts after marriage.

　　I hope that through the above four reminders, we can help our children to better choose the right partner.

　　By observing each other's family background, personality characteristics, values and growth attitude,

　　Children can better know and understand their partners, thus establishing a stable and happy marriage.

　　You know, parents' foresight can not only help their children choose a suitable partner, but also provide a stable foundation for their marriage.

　　Let us, as parents, do our bit for the happiness of our children's marriage.

　　* This article was first published in WeChat official account Daily Reading (meiriyidu8) by Daily Jun. Let's taste American literature and read good books together. Read it every day and change your life. Photo source photo network, has been authorized

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