The girl came to the door for the first time and was called into the kitchen. She was asked to stay twice. Man： Don't be afraid, I'm here.

　　Meeting parents is a necessary part of talking about marriage. Only with the approval, blessing and support of both parents can you really become a couple from a couple.

　　At this time, there is a problem that bothers girls, that is, "Do you want to work when you go to your boyfriend's house for the first time?"

　　Some people say that when you meet your parents-in-law, you should make a good impression on each other, be diligent, give a hand and do some work.

　　Some people think that when you meet your in-laws, you are a guest and there is no reason to let them work. If you are too attentive, you will be looked down upon by the other party, and you may become a free nanny after you get married.

　　In fact, a woman can take this opportunity to observe the attitude of her boyfriend's family towards you and her boyfriend's reaction.

　　As emotional expert Lu Qi said: "When you get married, you are not married to a certain person, but to all the social relations of this person. So what kind of marriage will you have when you marry a family. "

　　After you get married, you must deal with a man's family. If the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is not handled well, it can destroy your marriage. Therefore, it is extremely important to observe the character and attitude of a man's parents towards you. If a man's parents are unreasonable and don't respect you, you need to pay special attention to the man's reaction.

　　After meeting her boyfriend's parents, Zhang Yuanyuan was faced with a dilemma and didn't know what to do.

　　"The first time I went to the door, I was called into the kitchen. My boyfriend said, Don't be afraid to have me, which put me in a dilemma. Because of his maintenance and concern for me, I can't bear to part with this relationship, and I don't want to give up and want to marry him. However, I feel uncomfortable at the thought of his parents bossing me around. I am worried that I can't get along with my in-laws and dare not marry. What should I do? "

　　01. I talked with my boyfriend for two years, and both my parents and I recognized him;

　　Before going to see her boyfriend's parents, Zhang Yuanyuan took her boyfriend Liu Zijian back to her home and met her parents.

　　Zhang Yuanyuan's parents have always known about their daughter's love affair, and they also know something about the boy.

　　"My boyfriend's family is average. His father went to work in a coastal city when he was 3 years old. He only came back once a year. My mother waited on her in-laws, took care of her son and took care of housework. Mom has a pension, not much, around 2000. My boyfriend got good grades, got into a book, and stayed in the provincial capital to work. He is my colleague with a monthly salary of around 12,000. Compared with him, my situation is slightly better, my parents have more pensions, and my pressure is less. "

　　Liu Zijian is 26 years old, and has no messy emotional history. He looks honest and polite. Although he is not very sweet, he does things really and cares about his girlfriend. For example, he watches the weather forecast every day, and once he finds that it is going to rain, he will take pains to remind Zhang Yuanyuan to take an umbrella. Zhang Yuanyuan has a bad stomach. Liu Zijian often asks her if she has had breakfast. She also develops a good cooking skill and often adds meals to her girlfriend.

　　Regarding marriage, Liu Zijian has a plan to give a bride price and buy a wedding room, which has been approved by Zhang Yuanyuan's parents. After the mother-in-law has passed, it is time for the ugly daughter-in-law to see her in-laws.

　　02. Test my cooking? I am a guest, how can I cook?

　　To Zhang Yuanyuan's surprise, Liu Zijian, who is sincere and honest, has a pair of difficult parents.

　　First of all, his parents spread the news that his son was taking his girlfriend home. Many relatives came to see his future daughter-in-law and neighbors came to join in the fun, which made Zhang Yuanyuan feel very embarrassed.

　　Then, Zhang Yuanyuan came to the door for the first time and was called into the kitchen.

　　"The moment I was called into the kitchen, I promised or didn't promise. It was embarrassing. His mother called me into the kitchen, and menstruation, who stayed for dinner, echoed, saying that it was just to test my cooking skills and let me show my hands. "

　　At this point, Liu Zijian patted Zhang Yuanyuan on the shoulder, motioned for her not to move with her eyes, and said to her mother who was standing in the kitchen waiting for Zhang Yuanyuan to go in: "Newcomers are guests, how can we let guests cook?" There are many people in the family, mom, don't work hard. I have recently studied recipes and learned a few good dishes. I will show you a few hands. "

　　Then, Liu Zijian went into the kitchen. When his mother saw it, she said I'd come and pushed her son out to accompany his girlfriend.

　　03. His parents stayed twice, and even the bed was made, which made me even more uncomfortable.

　　While eating, Liu Zijian's parents asked about the requirements of getting married. When they learned that the bride price was to be given, Liu Zijian's parents didn't speak until Liu Zijian broke the calm: "Isn't it just a bride price of 50,000 yuan? I have been working for four years, and I can get the money. It is my business to marry a wife, I will give it. "

　　Originally, after lunch, Zhang Yuanyuan wanted to leave. At this time, Liu Zijian's mother and menstruation both tried to keep Zhang Yuanyuan: "Stay one night before you go! Aunt's home is big enough to live in, don't worry! "

　　Although we talked for two years, Zhang Yuanyuan is a conservative girl who never crosses the line, and Liu Zijian always respects her choice. Zhang Yuanyuan shook his head and refused to stay with Liu Zijian's mother.

　　Liu Zijian's parents and menstruation pull Zhang Yuanyuan, continue to gossip, constantly looking for a topic, looking at the sky began to get dark, Zhang Yuanyuan was in a hurry, stood up and prepared to leave.

　　"They advised me to stay, and his mother took me upstairs to show me the room. When I saw it, boy, even the bedding was ready. What do you want to do? "

　　When the girl came to the door for the first time, she was called into the kitchen and asked to stay twice. Seeing that Liu Zijian's family didn't care about her thoughts, Zhang Yuanyuan felt distracted and was ready to call her parents.

　　"Don't be afraid, I'm here. I'll take you to the hotel to rest. The room has been booked for you."

　　Liu Zijian picked up Zhang Yuanyuan's bag, took Zhang Yuanyuan by the hand, and then yelled at his mother who stopped him: "Just to save 50,000 yuan, what about you?" Mom, I don't ask how much you can help me with my marriage, but don't hold me back, okay? What should I do if you scare my girlfriend away? "

　　Liu Zijian sent Zhang Yuanyuan to the hotel, repeatedly apologized to her and asked her for forgiveness. He made it clear that he would definitely buy a house in the city and not live with his parents. He hoped that Zhang Yuanyuan would give him a chance and be willing to marry him.

　　On the one hand, she is a good boyfriend, and on the other hand, she is a boyfriend's parents who make her very disgusted. Zhang Yuanyuan is caught in a dilemma.

　　04. When parents are unreliable, whether love and marriage can be saved depends on your attitude.

　　As Liu Liu, the screenwriter of Double-sided Adhesive, said: "In the trivial life of chicken feathers, what women care most about is often not how to resolve the contradiction itself, but whether the husband stands behind him in the process of resolving the contradiction."

　　Men stand on the side of women, dare to say no to their parents, give women a sense of security, and women will have the confidence to go with you. For her, in this brand-new environment, you are the only person she can rely on. If you are not on her side, how can she have the courage to entrust her life to you, grow old with you and have children for you?

　　In-laws are not good to her, and women may give you face. Forget one thing or two for your good sake and be kind to your parents.

　　When parents are unreliable, whether love and marriage can be saved depends on your attitude. If you can give her a sense of security, she will have a chance to get happiness. If you fail to live up to expectations, it is no wonder that others are chilling to you.

　　Dora said, "Life is terrible and ugly. When two people are together, love will change from honey to chewing gum. The more you chew it, the lighter it will be, and it will be bitter and bitter. You can't help but spit it out. "

　　Love will change, and it is difficult to persist. Therefore, when a woman talks about marriage, she must be cautious when she meets a husband-in-law who doesn't recognize you or you can't accept it. A man's love for you may keep you happy for a while, but it's hard to keep you forever. Marriage can't stand risks. If you lose, you will be miserable.

　　If the other parents don't recognize you, they didn't treat you on an equal footing from the beginning. Such a marriage advises you to be cautious. It's really difficult for people with different views to get along with each other, and you will feel very tired.

　　Today's topic: Do you think Zhang Yuanyuan can get happiness by marrying her boyfriend? Welcome to share your opinions in the comments section.