＂I only have one request.＂ Phoenix Man insisted on ＂taking his mother to get married.＂ Girlfriend： Find someone else.

　　At the beginning of the article, let me share one thing with you first.

　　According to my mother, there was a girl in my hometown who went on a blind date. The boy's family was good, he was capable and his income was not low. The introducer was quite confident and his parents had expectations. However, the two of them didn't make it.

　　When asked why the girl refused, the girl said this: "His income is high, but he spends too much time at work to take care of his family, so he hopes that women will not work after marriage. And I watched more news, especially afraid of being bullied after becoming a full-time wife, and resolutely refused to resign after marriage. In this way, we broke up. "

　　There is a saying in "Secularity and Three Views": There is no standard for three views. In the world of crows, swans are also a sin.

　　The girl and the boy have different views, and it is difficult to have a good result if they are barely together. You think you are right, he thinks he is right, and no one can convince anyone. In the end, the couple will only talk too much, and the gap will be deeper, so that the marriage will fail.

　　Liu Tong, a writer, said: First glance is just a good impression. Whether two people can get together and keep going, it is more important to see whether the gears of two hearts are in tune.

　　The inconsistency between the three views can only show that you two are destined to be inseparable. Whether you are a man or a woman, you should remember that marriage is better than not.

　　Fang Chen broke up with his girlfriend. When asked about the reason for the breakup, he spit out his girlfriend, thinking that her girlfriend was too unkind and an unfilial woman: "I don't believe any husband-in-law would like such a woman."

　　01. My father's early death is the biggest pain in my heart;

　　When it comes to filial piety, it will touch a scar in Fang Chen's heart. It is the biggest pain in his heart that the son wants to raise and not stay close, and it is also the main reason why he insists on "taking his mother to get married".

　　Fang Chen, a phoenix man, was born in a poor family. Although his parents are very hardworking, they go to work in the fields with Dai Yue every day, saving money, but their living conditions have not been greatly improved. Apart from the basic expenses and Fang Chen's tuition, there is no money left at home.

　　"If I had been born earlier and made money earlier, my dad might not have given up treatment and left me early because he had no money."

　　When Fang Chen was 18 years old, he was in the third year of high school. When he was struggling to get into college, he learned a bad news, that is, his father had cancer. If you want to save dad's life and let him live longer, you must have money, but this treatment fee is undoubtedly an astronomical figure for their family.

　　"My dad told my mom, don't cure, leave the money for me to go to college. As long as I have ambition, he will die without regret. In the end, I was admitted to a book, but my dad gave up. "

　　Fang Chen suffered this pain once and didn't want to suffer it again. So, he didn't want his mother to stay away from him, even if he was not under one roof in a city, he couldn't accept it.

　　02. Having my mother by my side saves a lot of things;

　　When Fang Chen was in college, her mother also came to the provincial capital, rented a house and found a job in a restaurant. Every afternoon after school, Fang Chen will go back to visit her mother and come back by bus after dinner. After Fang Chen graduated from college, he rented a two-bedroom apartment near the company and lived with his mother.

　　"I'm serious, having a mother saves a lot of things, and I'm much more relaxed. I don't understand, someone will do housework for us and take care of the children in the future. Don't worry, why can't my girlfriend accept it? "

　　Every morning, after Fang Chen got up, the breakfast with all colors and flavors was placed on the table. The clothes needed to go to work were neatly folded and placed on the bedside. Socks were placed in the shoes at the door. In addition, there were lunch boxes on the table that were packed in insulation bags and could be heated by the company. After work in the evening, the clothes have been washed, the floor has been dragged, dinner has been served, and even the bath water has been boiled.

　　"The temperature will change, and my mother will always be the first to know, and will remind me to increase or decrease clothes in time; Every day before I go to work, my mother will prepare something for me in case I forget anything. Also, my mother is good at managing money. If she didn't help manage money, I might not be able to save money for buying a house and marrying a wife. "

　　"You can earn more than 300 thousand a year, save more money and buy a bigger house in the future. Our family lives together, and I will do housework for you, take care of your children and help you manage your finances." Fang Chen supports his mother's idea, but his girlfriend doesn't.

　　03. Is it too much for me to ask my mother to get married? She is so unreasonable;

　　Fang Chen's girlfriend is a local, and her family is much better than that of Chen. As an only child, her girlfriend is very independent, and her home is clearly in another community. She has to spend more than 1,000 yuan in rent and live in a rented house, which makes Fang Chen feel incomprehensible.

　　Some time ago, 26-year-old Fang Chen proposed to his girlfriend, and her girlfriend agreed, asking for a 60,000 bride price and buying a wedding room. Fang Chen agreed very readily and also suggested buying a big three-bedroom apartment.

　　"We will have at least two children in the future, plus my mother, three bedrooms are too small for me."

　　"Be sure to live with your mother? Can't I rent a house? You can rent it closer. "

　　After listening to his girlfriend's words, Fang Chen was very unhappy and stressed: "I only have one request, that is, let my mother live with us." My father is gone, and my mother only has me. Who does she live with if she doesn't live with me? She can take care of our children, help with housework and help us manage our money. Isn't that a lot more comfortable for you? Now that you have promised to marry me, I hope you can honor my mother. "

　　Fang Chen insisted on "taking mom to get married". His girlfriend was silent for a long time, didn't say anything, and turned away. That night, his girlfriend sent a short message to Fang Chen: "Find someone else, I am not a tool for you to honor your mother."

　　Although Fang Chen found his girlfriend several times later, his girlfriend's attitude of breaking up was very firm, and this relationship ended in failure, and his girlfriend became an unfilial woman in Fang Chen's mouth.

　　You want to honor your parents, don't drag your spouse, let alone transfer responsibility.

　　Psychologist Karen Horney said: "The biggest gap between people is not status, wealth, education or beauty and ugliness, but values."

　　People with different values can't communicate. Take Fang Chen as an example. He thinks that when a woman marries him, she has the obligation to honor her mother, so she should accept living with her and even want her mother to take care of the money. However, his girlfriend is an independent person and doesn't agree with him.

　　He can't understand his girlfriend's thoughts, and naturally it is impossible to understand why this relationship failed.

　　Whether it is a man or a woman, you want to honor your parents, don't drag your spouse, and don't want to transfer responsibility. It is your duty to honor your parents, not your spouse's. It is not filial piety, but selfishness, and your irresponsibility to marriage.

　　Japanese writer Yoko Nakamura wrote in The Worth of the World: Even family members should distinguish each other and force others, and both themselves and each other are very painful.

　　Forcing the other party to accept your ideas and do things according to your ideas will only end in failure.

　　Today's topic: Do you think any girl will accept Fang Chen's request? Welcome to share your opinions in the comments section.