＂She is my mother, shouldn't you say something？＂ Phoenix man blindly protects his mother, and the ending is really face-beating.

　　Love has a fickle face, and it needs mutual respect and understanding to maintain good feelings.

　　Yu Shuo Emotion | # Emotion # Viewpoint Series

　　01

　　Many people tell us that love is loyalty, giving and tolerance. No matter what happens, as long as you tolerate enough, everything will pass.

　　However, the reality has given us a loud slap. When you meet some unreasonable people, no matter how tolerant and considerate you are, the other person will not be moved at all, and even treat your kindness as a donkey's liver and lung.

　　In fact, no matter how firm your feelings are, they can't stand unnecessary harm. In a marriage, your feelings will encounter all kinds of tests.

　　Mother-in-law, sister-in-law, other interest disputes, in this process, your husband and wife's feelings account for the most important, no matter what happens, as long as the husband and wife are United, they will be able to tide over the difficulties.

　　But most people can't do this at all. When they experience a relationship, they often favor one over the other.

　　Even when he was in love, he said a lot of good things to each other, but once he entered marriage and encountered some trivial things, he forgot his original promise.

　　This kind of feeling is a little sad, all because you didn't have a good distinction between each other's character before you fell in love, which led to all the grievances that you had to bear alone when things happened.

　　02

　　Born in poverty in summer, I flew out of the mountains step by step by my own efforts.

　　Since childhood, summer is a filial child, and he also listens to his parents.

　　He is now working in a big city. After paying his salary every month, he will send part of his salary back to his parents. His parents are very satisfied with this son and praise everyone.

　　Later, in the workplace, I met Ruolan in summer, and Ruolan was lively and active, which soon attracted summer.

　　Ruolan is a city girl, used to seeing the playboys of those city dudes, and after seeing the honest and honest summer, she has a crush on him.

　　They fell in love at first sight, and their feelings developed rapidly. They only dated for half a year and decided to get married.

　　Ruolan's parents knew that their daughter was going to marry such a city boy, and many of them were unwilling. Later, Ruolan listed many advantages of summer, and their parents were reluctant to accept it.

　　When I first got married, my life was fairly happy.

　　Rural people are enthusiastic, but there are many rules. It takes a long time to recognize relatives after marriage.

　　But she is willing and feels it is her honor to make some sacrifices for her sweetheart.

　　But the good times didn't last long. After three years of marriage, Ruolan found that there were still some problems in summer.

　　When some relatives came to borrow money from him, it was obvious that he didn't, but he still had to punch his face and be fat. In order not to let relatives make irresponsible remarks, he would support him, but when he needed it, he didn't.

　　He is particularly sensitive. Once Ruolan took the summer back to her family, some people in her family were just discussing the summer. After seeing him come in, all of them stopped talking. At that time, the summer began to think, always wondering if others looked down on themselves.

　　For this matter has been bitter, but in fact, their parents didn't say anything at that time, but no matter how Ruolan explained it to Xia, the other party simply wouldn't listen.

　　He didn't have a mind of his own, and others wanted something from him. He didn't want to promise, but because of his face and indecision, he had to agree. After agreeing, he added a lot of trouble to his life.

　　For these things, Ruolan told him countless times, but he couldn't listen to a word in the summer, and he knew it when he met something.

　　Especially when it comes to treating his parents, no matter what Ruolan says about him, he will not change. As long as it comes to parents' problems, no matter right or wrong, Xia will stand on his parents' side.

　　Once Ruolan had a strong argument with her mother-in-law about how to wash clothes.

　　Mother-in-law said that in the face of some clothes that are not easy to wash, you can use detergent and washing powder, and then rinse them with water several times.

　　However, Ruolan thinks that those clothes are all worn by themselves. No matter how many times you wash them with clean water, they can't be cleaned, and there will be some residual substances.

　　Because of this problem, two people had a fierce quarrel.

　　When I was quarreling, I came back in the summer. When I saw my daughter-in-law arguing with her mother, I immediately spoke to her: She is my mother. Why don't you just say something about what's wrong with you? Why do you want to quarrel with her? She is an elder, can't you let her be a little bit?

　　Ruolan was even more angry when she saw her husband towards her mother. This happened several times before. Every time her husband stood by her mother's side and alienated himself, she put up with it before, but now she doesn't want to put up with it again.

　　Ruolan began to argue with her husband: As a man in this family, when two women quarrel, you should have stood in a fair position, but every time you stand next to your mother, have you ever thought about how I feel about being a wife? You said your mother was an elder and asked me to let her go, so why didn't you let her let me go?

　　I am also the baby in my parents' mind. At the beginning, my parents didn't agree with me to marry you, but I persuaded them. Now, seeing this situation, I really regret not listening to my parents.

　　After hearing his wife say this in summer, he immediately said to her: Since you regret it, let's get a divorce.

　　If you think about it carefully, in this marriage, except for the joy brought to her by summer at the beginning of marriage, all the pain brought to her afterwards. Now that her husband has put forward the word divorce, there is no need for her to stay.

　　In the summer after the divorce, I dated several girls, but those girls saw the complicated family situation in the summer, and then heard that he had a wife, and he forced him to divorce, so they all stayed away from him.

　　Later, although he married a woman, the other person was a particularly strong person, and he was particularly strict in all aspects.

　　He sees his wife just like a tiger sees a cat, and he has no man's dignity at all.

　　What's the point of a man who has lost his dignity? Maybe a man like Xia should be with such a woman.

　　03

　　Phoenix Man, a golden phoenix who flew out of a chicken coop, left a relatively poor living environment, but still retained many backward ideas and decadent ideas.

　　When they get married and start a family with some city girls, the differences in ideas can easily lead to all kinds of misunderstandings in their marriage.

　　However, no matter how different the concepts are, you should understand that no matter how filial you are, even the best woman will be scared away by your blind filial piety if this filial piety becomes foolish.

　　For a man, since he is married and married, he should have your bottom line. When encountering things, he should be impartial and stand on the right side.

　　Even if it's your mother, if she does something wrong, you don't want to tell her in public, but you can also do your mother's work in private, but don't let your daughter-in-law be wronged.

　　Between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, it is very important for men to get along harmoniously. If you don't distinguish right from wrong or even adopt a one-sided policy in this process, your relationship will only get worse and worse.

　　Once you have lost some feelings, it is a little difficult to get them back. In this case, I hope you can think twice before you do anything.