A man who has been in love for a month and urges to get married, but you refuse him and he gives you the cold shoulder, but he doesn't really love you.

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　　I saw a story on the internet, and I felt very sad after reading it.

　　The girl got to know a boy through her elders. After chatting on WeChat for a week, she made an appointment to meet her. When she met each other, she pursued her crazily. She drove 200 kilometers every day to pick her up from work, accompany her to dinner, and then drove back to his own home.

　　The boy's personality and appearance are very attractive to her, and he knows girls very well, knows how to chase girls and how to get along with them, so she quickly agreed to be with each other.

　　After being with him, the love was very sweet, just like when he pursued her. She also enjoyed the love and thought it would be good to continue like this, but when she was in love for more than half a month, he took her home to meet her parents, who met for a month and urged her to get married.

　　Girls think it's too soon. After all, they have only been together for a month, and they think they should spend more time together and get to know each other better before they think about it. Obviously, the other party is very anxious and has proposed to marry her several times. She turned him down.

　　The girl refused him seriously and gave a very good reason, not that she didn't like him, didn't love him or didn't want to marry him, but that both sides needed more time. Then the object said that she wouldn't rush her again, just tell him when she wants to get the certificate.

　　Since then, the object's attitude towards her has changed a hundred and eighty degrees, which can be described as a cliff-like indifference. How warm she was at the beginning, how cold she was later, WeChat chat did not actively reply, and she did not actively seek her. In short, the gap was very large.

　　They had a lot of conflicts because of this incident, and finally they broke up. The girls have been very uncomfortable because of this incident and feel that they have done something wrong to lead to this result.

　　In fact, this story is still very typical, so I want to have a good talk with you today. Like this story she encountered, she urged her to get married after a month of love, and she gave you the cold shoulder when she refused. This kind of man should still be very careful.

　　02

　　First of all, talk about why he was so enthusiastic at the beginning.

　　When pursuing her, she drove 200 kilometers to pick her up from work. Does this sound romantic? She thinks this man is not bad and takes himself to heart.

　　But in fact, driving 200 kilometers every day just to pick you up from work and have dinner with you is actually a very dangerous signal. Let's think about it first. Can we do this? Can't you?

　　And a man is willing to drive hundreds of kilometers, which shows that this man has a strong purpose. He has only one purpose, that is, to take her down quickly. Then all he can do is to do something that can move the other side.

　　He knows very well how to touch girls. The reason why girls bring this up shows that she is very useful in her heart and feels that the other person loves herself very much, so she is willing to make such sacrifices and pay.

　　However, this kind of effort is not normal at first glance. Otherwise, why did he suddenly become indifferent behind the cliff? From driving 200 kilometers every day to seeing it once a week, it shows that he can't do it at all.

　　The reason why he can do it in the early stage is that he has not really become the boyfriend of the other party, and he is willing to pay for this goal.

　　A netizen's comment hit the nail on the head. She said, "It's just an attitude to give a deal to be nice to you and turn around you every day!" Not ability, not character, not behavior pattern! ! It's a strategy ! The strategy can be adjusted in an instant! ！”

　　I think she is right. This is just his strategy of chasing her. Driving 200 kilometers every day, chatting with her and showing enthusiasm for her are just his strategies, and the strategies can be adjusted.

　　So later, he asked her to get married, and she refused, so he immediately changed his strategy, stopped driving 200 kilometers, and stopped responding to her information enthusiastically, which made her feel uncomfortable and wondered if she had done something wrong.

　　03

　　Secondly, why can he say indifference is indifference?

　　At the beginning, he gave many beautiful love experiences to girls, and he could drive 200 kilometers to get off work before he was together. For those who have not experienced these things, it is hard not to be moved.

　　From the girl's description, we can see that he is very enthusiastic about her, but this enthusiasm is very short-lived, because he was rejected after a month of love, so he began to become cold.

　　The enthusiasm he once had for her no longer exists. He no longer drives 200 kilometers every day to pick her up from work and accompany her for dinner. She sends him messages, but he also responds slowly.

　　There were contradictions and quarrels between them, and he did not actively coax her, or even gave her a cold treatment.

　　This can be directly explained that he was really so enthusiastic about her to achieve his goal. Later, he found that the goal could not be achieved and the girl didn't want to marry him so soon, so he stopped paying.

　　We can even guess that he has actually put down his feelings for girls in his heart and turned his goal to other girls. In other words, all he wants is to find someone to marry. It doesn't matter who this person is, but he just happened to meet a girl.

　　This is what most men think. They just want to get married. They don't care who they marry. As long as the other person's conditions are good and it won't be too much trouble with her, then choose this person.

　　Marriage is the only purpose, and it really doesn't matter who gets married.

　　Men are actually very realistic. They all pay with a strong purpose. Once the purpose is not achieved, they can immediately stop paying and stop paying anything to each other.

　　That's why he gave girls the cold shoulder so quickly. Under normal circumstances, when a man meets a girl he likes, he will be willing to spend more time with each other, so that they can have more time to get used to each other, instead of being so anxious to marry you.

　　04

　　Finally, people who are eager to marry you may not love you much.

　　Many people still cling to the old cliche that a man is willing to marry me and go home, that is, he really loves me.

　　But it's really not like this. The man who wants to marry you home really doesn't want to marry you because he loves you more or is afraid of losing you.

　　Well, you can also say that you are afraid of losing you, because you may be missed, and he will never meet anyone as good as you, so he should take the time to bind you around, and it is really not because of love.

　　True love will definitely respect your wishes. When you make it clear that you don't want to get married yet, he is willing to spend time with you, waiting for your willingness, instead of urging you to get married.

　　The boy mentioned in our article is obvious, he just doesn't love girls, and all his purposes are just to complete the task of getting married, that's all.

　　Moreover, once a girl marries him, you can imagine that her married life must be very bad.

　　Therefore, girls, if they have just been in love for a month, they are urging you to marry you. They really must be careful and don't rush to push themselves into marriage.

　　You should spend more time to inspect each other, observe whether the other person is the one who can get married and live, observe whether he is reliable, observe his family and get along well, all of which should be considered.

　　If you meet a man like the one in the story and become cold to you after you refuse, don't doubt that it's your own problem. It must be his problem. He wants to win you quickly and finds that you are not so easy to win, so he adjusts his strategy, that's all.

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