Mo Yan： When you are worthless, even if you are as gentle as a cat, your gentleness and modesty will be rejected.

　　Mo Yan once said: "No matter how kind you are, when you are worthless, even if you are as gentle as a cat, others will think you lose your hair." Human nature is disgusting. No one will love you because you love him. The other person will only love you because you are excellent. Your value is everything to you, and there are few pure good people and bad people. "

　　The essence of interpersonal relationship is the exchange of value, but whether the value is worth it or not, according to everyone's specific standards. What you can bring to the other party determines the attitude of the other party. After all, the other party expects you to pay again and continuously.

　　In the TV series Our Marriage, Bai Baihe's Shen Comet and David's Sheng Jiangchuan are a couple.

　　After graduation, his wife, Shen Comet, became a full-time housewife to take care of her baby, and her husband, Sheng Jiangchuan, devoted himself to her career. When his daughter Tangtang was six years old, comet Shen also wanted to go out to work. After all, the husband and wife graduated from the same college and major, and Shen Comet's grades were better than her husband's.

　　Knowing that his wife had to do investment work, Sheng Jiangchuan began to dissuade him and asked, "Sugar is so small, a family must have one person to pay more?"

　　He spoke confidently, as if a woman is born to sacrifice for her family. If she has her own ideas and affects the operation of her family, it is a sin.

　　Comet Shen didn't lose: "I've given for six years, and now it's your turn. Come on, give."

　　"Children and family belong to both of us, right? I studied the same major and received the same education as you. Why do you give priority to your work and take me as the second?"

　　Sheng Jiangchuan believes that the greatest value of a wife is to take good care of her family and children and support herself in her career.

　　So, when Shen Comet wanted to go out to work and achieve herself, her value became zero in Sheng Jiangchuan's eyes.

　　Therefore, Shen Comet said that she wanted to go out to work, but she was blocked by everything. Even when she saw Shen Comet's tough attitude, the two men almost got divorced.

　　Shen Huixing's insistence is only because: "We can't just live as whose mother, whose wife and whose daughter."

　　Some values are phased and are constantly depreciating. Some values, however, cannot be taken away by others, and can be continuously and progressively increased.

　　We are group animals, we should socialize and survive. Therefore, caring about other people's eyes is a last resort.

　　However, Wang Shuo once said: "The most important thing to live clearly is never to hand over the evaluation criteria to others. Once the evaluation criteria are handed over to others, you will never live clearly."

　　However, in order to achieve this mental state, what is needed is to be tempered by Qian Fan. It is not a realm that ordinary people can reach easily.

　　Therefore, most people living in this world will still pay attention to the evaluation and secular vision of people around them. After all, respecting the exchange of the law of value is the standard to stand on in this world, although perhaps many people spurn this so-called standard.

　　In life, every once in a while, we always sort out our things. We cherish the useful things at home, and we are reluctant to throw away the commonly used things, even if they are old.

　　Things that are not used and accumulate dust all the year round will be thrown away as "garbage" in the end.

　　Although cruel, this applies not only to interpersonal communication between strangers, but also to husband and wife, relatives and friends.

　　When you are not good enough, when the other person is worthless but a drag, the more you stand on tiptoe to be good to others, the more people are disgusted.

　　Your worthlessness or low value will make all your kindness and kindness as insignificant as dust.

　　Remember, the attitude of others towards you does not depend on your attitude towards others, but on your value.

　　When you are weak, there are the most bad people in the world. When you are strong, the world is full of tenderness.

　　People are advanced animals, so some behaviors have animal characteristics. In the animal world, wolves prey on sheep instead of tigers, not because of kindness, but simply because wolves are not as powerful as tigers or tigers are not as easy to deal with as sheep.

　　If a person feels that the world is only ugly, it is just that he is too fragile and has no value to exchange. How to treat him, don't have to pay any price, and conclude that you won't want anything from him for the rest of your life.

　　Mo Yan once said: I have been saving and saving all my life. No matter how much I dig, I still haven't saved enough money. I have been forbearing, letting go and being afraid all my life. No matter how careful I am, people still offend a lot.

　　The growth of life lies not in tolerance, not in being careful, but in letting others see "value" in you.

　　The story of life, like a book, the cover is given by parents, and the story on the inside page can only be written by yourself.

　　People can't let go of too many things in this life. In this theater on earth, we play all kinds of people, but sometimes we only lose ourselves.

　　Although Shen Comet's decision to enter the workplace has brought a lot of pressure and frustrations to her marriage and disrupted her pace of life, there is no doubt that this decision is the greatest guarantee to reflect her own value.

　　When Shen Comet decided to give up herself and take care of her family and support her husband's work, it was not because she was incapable. On the contrary, after she entered the workplace, she was more prosperous than her husband.

　　If comet Shen continues to be gentle and decent and take on the whole family by herself, then in the end, she will still live as a housewife who "doesn't earn money at home and depends on her father".

　　A person's value can't be bought by making a small fortune. When you set your eyes on yourself, know how to improve your value, and pay attention to your own creation, you will be sober.

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　　[Wen | Wei Weian: The pen has temperature and sounds for love. An atypical writer who loves words invites you to perceive life together]